Control is an illusion
Control is an illusion.
…I don’t know who coined this phrase, but it’s a double entendre. On the one hand it’s saying control is not ‘real’, on the other hand it infers that control can be achieved through illusion. In other words control is perceptive, like money and time; control is essentially a belief system, so if we can manage someone’s perception we can control them.
Being in illusion of control led to many frightening events in history. Man wanted to control the world, the war happened; man wanted to control people, politics happened; man wanted to control power, genocide occurred; man wanted to control fear, terrorism occurred. Every time someone wants to control something outside of their ability, two things happen; either it enlightens them, or it ends them. We can play the game as we want but the outcome is beyond our reach.
…. no matter what we do, that seed will grow to be a peach tree. We may wish for an apple or an orange, but we will get a peach.
Control is an illusion. What we control begins and ends with our mind. We learn to let go of believing to control other people. Influence them, yes. Teach them, yes. But understand those people are going to make choices we might not like.
The only control we actually have is for what goes on in our mind. That’s it.